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Being Present, Find Your Joy and Your Own “Avery Time”

It is so very easy to get caught up in our day to day lives, to become focused on the dramas and on what’s not working or on what you want to be but it isn’t here yet or perhaps obsessing over what’s not right about current circumstances and wanting things fixed before the lessons have had time to present themselves and run their course

In my own personal impatience, I am clearly reminded to go back to my spiritual and yogic roots, back to the foundations of yoga philosophy, to go back to the 5000 year old wisdom that guided me to make incredible transformations in my life.  By simply studying and doing our best to apply the teachings of these ancient philosophies to current day situations can make all the difference in our daily lives!  We all have the innate ability to transform our lives, we just have to make a conscious choice to show up differently than yesterday.

Today, as I move through impatience and fear, I am reminded of one of my favorite niyamas (yogic ways of living) from the Yoga Sutras, santosha.  Santosha, simply put, is to have contentment and to find equanimity in all things.

What takes us out of contentment is our own fears, our worries and projections on the past and on the future. Anything that takes us out of the present moment and identifies us with the daily dramas and issues of our lives takes us out of the state of our Divine being and we lose contact with the “I AM”, the Divine presence within each one of us.

Santosha reminds us to be patient and to TRUST.  It reminds me of a quote from Wayne Dyer. “The right circumstances and the right people are already here and will show up on time.”  That’s right, santosha asks us to TRUST that all is well and that we are exactly where we need to be at any given moment in time.

As I look at my own life I draw inspiration to live this not only from the teachings for the great Yogic texts and spiritual masters, but I also look right in my own household, to my beautiful 7-year old daughter, Avery.  She arrived on this earth in large part to wake me up to the spiritual path and she teaches us every single day.

One of her “gifts” that she brings is what we have coined in our house as “Avery Time”.  This involves Avery taking her own sweet time in completing just about everything – yes, it really can take 2 hours to get dressed or complete a simple page of math problems!  Perhaps in those moments a fabulous book or the tea party she’s having with her American Girl dolls has much greater priority to her than our own agenda of getting out of the house on time so we adults can hurry up and get our day started.  Sometimes it’s so easy to get frustrated with this, especially when I have “somewhere important” to be soon.

But what we lose when forget to give ourselves our own “Avery Time” is the simple the joy of the present moment, being fully engaged in whatever you are doing without a care in the world for anyone else’s agenda or schedules being imposed on the joy of the NOW.

Santosha, contentment asks us to be in JOY, NOW.  While easier said than done, why not make it a daily practice to slow down and be in gratitude for whatever IS?

So, slowdown, trust… everything is gonna be all right. That’s it, just trust that all is in Divine order! Simple and easy, right? Maybe not but a great reminder for us all to let go and offer everything up for the highest and greatest good.

Getting to the Root Cause, Finding Inner Truth

Some days are wonderful.  In those days, life is good and we don’t have a care in the world.  We never really wonder when those days are going to end.  We just enjoy them in the moment.

Some days are quite the opposite.  Some days it feels like everything is going wrong or circumstances arise that trigger our “less pleasant” emotions such as worry, fear, anxiety, depression and so on.  It is often in these times we not only wonder when the intense emotions will end, but in those moments, it also can feel as if it’s “always going to be this way.”

I recently had series of those “darker days.”  And even though my mind had all the logical answers and even though I knew what I “ought to do”, it seemed every attempt that I made to force these uncomfortable feelings away had no effect.

I ought to:

  • Turn this around to what gifts and lessons this situation brings
  • Just stop worrying and be happy
  • Trust in the Divine order of things and know these situations have a greater purpose, a lesson
  • Take these circumstances as a clear message from God as to the direction I need to be taking (sometimes closed doors point the way to the right path)
  • Just think positive thoughts and continuously repeat them to myself
  • Pray and ask for help
  • Meditate
  • Do something outside to get my mind off things

I analyzed to death the patterns I was finding myself in.  I had pinpointed every little piece of the patterns I was falling into where I may have learned them along the way in my life. Yet even this awareness did not make a shift.  I meditated, I prayed, I asked God and Guru to help me to apply all the things I knew I ought to do to alleviate these feelings.  NOTHING.   And then it came, as a “last resort” I picked up a pen and my journal and just began to complain.  Complain about everything that was wrong, complain that I knew what I should do but just couldn’t seem to get it, complain that “nothing was working”  I asked for help dissolving worry, fear, anxiety and depression yet none my “pleas to God” seemed to be answered.

And then, out of the middle of seemingly nowhere, the answer came:

“All of these things you are asking for, I cannot take them away without them easily returning as you are asking me to simply alleviate your symptoms.  No matter how many times the symptoms subside, they will always come back if you do not address the root cause.”

Right then and there,  I asked, I prayed – “Please help me heal the root cause of all of these ‘issues’.”  In that moment, a wave of peace washed over me.  My “symptoms” almost instantly vanished and I knew I had tapped into something extremely  important.

You see there was and is nothing wrong with the circumstances that had presented themselves (the so called cause of my worries).  There was nothing wrong with the reaction I was having.  What the ultimate “solution” pointed me to was this deeper understanding of how we resist life’s lessons and how easily we can get caught up in our own pain.

Yet the root cause of all of it seems to be something bigger than “my mom did/didn’t do ‘X’”;  “I had a difficult life”; Name any thing that you think is the source of your misery and I guarantee that it is not even close to the root cause.  In my experience, once I get past identification with the so called difficult circumstances of the past (things outside of myself) I realize that the root cause is this notion that we are somehow separate from Source that something “out there” is doing these things to us.

Perhaps in truth, it doesn’t even matter what the root cause is.  Following this, we begin to realize that it is definitely not any of the symptoms that we experience on a day to day basis.  Whether you know the root cause or not, addressing healing, addressing issues at their source, alleviating the strain where the it starts is a sure way to help the symptoms subside as well.

It is like the story of the woman whose “check engine” light kept turning on in her car.  She had been to the mechanic multiple times for this very same issue.  Each time it would appear they had found the issue, her car would be returned and a few weeks later, the light would come on again.  Getting quite tired of the woman’s complaints and quite tired of working on this car, on her last an final visit to the shop,  the mechanic simply took the light bulb to the check engine light out and returned the car to this woman.  She was happy – the light no longer came on, but was the problem really fixed?

Time and time again, we do this in our lives – solely relying on cessation of the symptoms, treating of the symptoms as starting points and the focus of our healing, missing completely the underlying disconnection with Source with our Divine perfected Self, with our true nature.

This new found awareness, of asking for healing at the root of the issue, has brought incredible amounts of peace and equanimity into my days.  It is from this mindset that I now give and receive Reiki healing sessions. It is from this mindset that I approach all so called challenges throughout my day.  It is from this perspective that I offer all of myself to the highest and greatest good each and every day.  It is from this space that I approach my meditation practice each morning – knowing and trusting that my practice is bringing me closer and closer to my true roots – my divine Self, one who is in yoga, union, yoked with the Christ consciousness within – something that is accessible to all of us if we choose it.